A brief follow up to my words from yesterday. Previously, I posted about Mimi Faust of Love and Hip Hop: Atlanta and how her recent folly into porn is a huge disservice to her responsibilities as a mother. I must say, I am pleased by the response I received from my readers.
As I published that post, it hit me that I didn’t speak about Nikko, her boyfriend who appears with her in the sex tape. I focused all of my attention on her failures as a mother, without considering the obvious reality that her significant other plays in this recent controversy. The media at large is making the same mistakes I did.
Nikko is just as much to blame for Mimi’s irresponsibility as Mimi is herself. Nikko is just as guilty of favoring fame over parental considerations. As a man who is assuming some parental duties over Mimi’s young daughter, he is as much to blame for his lack of consideration.
Men are instrumental in the fight for gender equity. Men, the engineers of patriarchy, must be included in practices that promote female empowerment. All too often, feminists ignore men in the quest for gender equity; a grave mistake that will only make our fight more difficult than it needs to be. It’s important to understand men and their views about gender. It’s even more important to ensure that their views serve to the benefit of women and children, and by extension … humanity.
Which is where Nikko fits in.
Who knows what motivations Nikko has for agreeing to broadcast private sexual exploits with a mother. But, as a father figure, he needs to better understand how significant he is in female development. A billion studies will show that the most productive child hails from a supportive household with responsive authority figures. A strong family unit is basically the indicator of a child’s success. For non-lesbian families, this means that a positive father figure is necessary for childhood development.
I speak from personal experience. My father was (and still is) instrumental in my educational, social, political, and economic development. My father taught me life lessons about female dignity. My father encouraged me to always achieve my goals… to dream big … and to be treated with respect from my significant others. My father is my everything, and every day, I admire what an amazing father he is.
Men need to recognize how important they are to their children. All too often, we delegate child rearing as a woman’s responsibility. Society does not discuss how much men are needed in the home.
It’s shameful that Mimi’s daughter has no positive father figure to look up to. Her blood father, Stevie J, disrespects her mother on national television… while the new boyfriend is figuratively pimping her mother out.
I really do feel bad for the child. Men cut from the same cloth as Stevie J and Nikko need to better ascertain their roles as fathers. They need to better comprehend the depth of their parental responsibilities. And if they are not ready to assume such responsibilities, then they need to take necessary precautions to avoid such a situation in the first place.