Yesterday, news broke that Bobbi Kristina Brown, daughter of the legendary Whitney Houston, was found unresponsive in her bathtub in her home in Roswell, Georgia. Placed in a medically induced coma, she remains in critical condition, relying on a ventilator to help her breathe.
The scene is eerily familiar. Three years ago, Whitney Houston was also found in a bathtub before dying. The cause of death was drowning, although cocaine and heart disease were noted as contributing factors.
It’s clear that Bobbi Kristina has issues that run beyond the occasional TMZ story. Hyper-aggressive media has never taken the time to give Bobbi her space or understanding, instead painting her as a one-dimensional young woman with unfortunate parents. I will not contribute to that skewed narrative. I see Bobbi as much more than a tabloid. Here’s what I would tell her, should I ever have the privilege of befriending her.
1. You’re beautiful and full of potential.
2. You cannot help who you were born to or the circumstances of your childhood.
3. You’re entitled to private, nonjudgmental space for mental, emotional, and physical healing.
4. Sustainable healing comes from a place of personal responsibility.
5. Seeking help is not weakness. It’s strength.
6. Learn to love yourself. Learn to forgive yourself.
7. Most of the people you come across do not have your best interests in mind, heart, or spirit.
8. Regardless, keep your mind, spirit, and actions positive.
9. Black women suffer from mental health issues. And there are qualified experts who particularly understand the stigma around the mental suffering of Black women.
10. Longterm, overall change comes from a series of small changes. It’ll take time…lots of time. But it’s possible.