Trigger Warning: Sexual assault, rape, rape culture, white “men.”
I went to a predominately white school in a predominately white town, so of course I had some run-ins with white frat boys.
When I saw this disturbing article about white frat boys who hung banners drenched in rape culture and patriarchal sexual entitlement during Welcome Week, old memories of rapacious, predatory behavior came to mind.
There was that one time when a white frat guy tried to “coax” me into his bed, while I tried to get my intoxicated friend home. There was the other time when a cowardly white frat guy I had a one-off with, made crude gestures while my back was turned to the amusement of his frat friends.
The white frat guys I’ve encountered weren’t just entitled assholes with small penises, insecurity issues, and weak strokes — they were misogynoristic pigs who disrespected women (Black women especially) to a such a bloodcurdling extent, that it’s terrifying to think that they are *currently* employed; working in some influential positions in both the public and private sectors, with auspicious futures within reach.
Racism + Patriarchy = Misogynoir
Of course, not every single white frat boy I met fit the description of a entitled Black-women-hating pig. But enough of them did, to the point where I question just what is it about certain frats that attract these types of violent people.
I also question the white women — my fellow classmates — who condoned these white frat boys’ behavior; who were complicit in their patriarchy by way of silence or outright blessing, and who showed me that rape culture is sometimes facilitated by women.
But what scares me the most is how they are harm-doers by way of hilarity — they literally think their vicious harms are funny, and that pathologically motivates them to undertake such behaviors … to the detriment of Black women especially, and women in general.
Conquest further acts as an incentive for their rapacious behaviors. In warped medieval fashion, they believe the more women they have sex with and/or rape, will validate their manhood, and is evidence of their masculinity. And in an effort to one-up and outperform one another, women become survivors of their violence.
These are the thoughts that constantly creep into my Spirit whenever I hear more and more and more and more horrors of gender-based violence on college campuses and in high schools. If you’d like to share your experiences of sexual violence in college, or are looking for healing resources, please feel free to send me a private email.